These children of ours can break our hearts like nothing else …. I have also spent many hours trying to explain how overwhelmed I was when they were little. It’s impossible for them to truly understand. But we just love them anyway - bombard them with love - and their favourite food helps too . Bribery perhaps but hey , whatever works 🙃🌸
That's so impressive that your daughter has gotten a research assistant job at such a young age! I'll send you a private message for the rest of my comments. :)
I can feel the love shining through every word you wrote here. This was such a deeply heartfelt reflection on your relationship with your daughter, along with the complexities of your own history with your own mom. I hope that your connection with your daughter will evolve in a healthy and reciprocal way over the years.
I think she doesn't know how to say it. She's still a kid and I think trying to reconcile and understand how important her relationship with you will come in time. The letter you wrote for her I would imagine is something she'll keep and re-read on occasion. It was big of you to put your feelings and regrets in writing for her. Maybe the next time she's home, apologize to her briefly but concisely to see where she's at. Tell her you'll be there whenever she if/wants to talk about it. She's become the incredible person she is in large part because of you. The first thing I started to notice in my freshman year of college was how much I was like my parents. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
I was hoping after having been gone this whole year, she would be more open. But that hasn’t really changed. My son and I went through a rough patch around the time he turned 18 but that had more to do with him not respecting our house rules. By the end of his freshman year, he was more open and more mature. I do think that boys tend to be more laid back, where as mother-daughter dynamics can often be a little trickier to navigate. I'm sure she will eventually come around. The waiting is rough, though.
These children of ours can break our hearts like nothing else …. I have also spent many hours trying to explain how overwhelmed I was when they were little. It’s impossible for them to truly understand. But we just love them anyway - bombard them with love - and their favourite food helps too . Bribery perhaps but hey , whatever works 🙃🌸
I was thinking I should start sending cards and care packages more frequently… and you’re right. Food is always a good choice!☺️
That's so impressive that your daughter has gotten a research assistant job at such a young age! I'll send you a private message for the rest of my comments. :)
I’m excited to read it!
Today she found out she was selected to sit in on a robotic thoracic surgery! ☺️🙌🏽
Wow! So impressive.
I can feel the love shining through every word you wrote here. This was such a deeply heartfelt reflection on your relationship with your daughter, along with the complexities of your own history with your own mom. I hope that your connection with your daughter will evolve in a healthy and reciprocal way over the years.
Thank you so much, Angela. I really hope so too. 🩷
I think she doesn't know how to say it. She's still a kid and I think trying to reconcile and understand how important her relationship with you will come in time. The letter you wrote for her I would imagine is something she'll keep and re-read on occasion. It was big of you to put your feelings and regrets in writing for her. Maybe the next time she's home, apologize to her briefly but concisely to see where she's at. Tell her you'll be there whenever she if/wants to talk about it. She's become the incredible person she is in large part because of you. The first thing I started to notice in my freshman year of college was how much I was like my parents. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
I was hoping after having been gone this whole year, she would be more open. But that hasn’t really changed. My son and I went through a rough patch around the time he turned 18 but that had more to do with him not respecting our house rules. By the end of his freshman year, he was more open and more mature. I do think that boys tend to be more laid back, where as mother-daughter dynamics can often be a little trickier to navigate. I'm sure she will eventually come around. The waiting is rough, though.